What do women want and how do they want it?
But how do you win the woman you want? Is it just a myth and impossible?
What about unattractive guys with no sex appeal who have low self-esteem and dream of dating beautiful women? Do they have any hope?
Guys are usually attracted to women for sex. For women, it’s not that simple. We think buying things impresses them.
We try to be taller or make more money to get the girl. But is that really what they want?
What can we actually do to attract her?
Here are some 30 qualities that women find most irresistible in men.
1. Does Height Matter?
Of course it does. This is a fact of life we cannot avoid. Most women are naturally drawn to tall, handsome men with a pilot-height, sports-like body, who are soft-spoken and shy, just like flies to a fresh carcass or hounds to the eyes of a python.
If not all men have these qualities, what happens to the rest of us?
Well, if you read the rest of the article you may find some things you can do to supplement your disadvantages.
2. Be Respectful
The ideal dream man for a woman is a tall, handsome man who knows how to dresses in flashy clothes, impeccable suits, knows how to look after himself and is also self-confident and intelligent.
Well, not quite. The ideal man for a woman is the man who respects a woman first and foremost. Let that sink in your brain because most men don't.
3. Intelligence vs Wealth.
Although women may love a man that has both, they prefer a man who is intelligent and intriguing. Goes without saying, intelligence exudes self-confidence and success—something women are drawn to.
You may be poor but don’t be poor and lack intelligence at the same time. If you don’t have it, read books.
4. Give her Freedom
I’ve seen well-dressed, intelligent men who look wealthy, being rejected by women who are not particularly classy, for a laborer who is broke with no money.
Women don’t like a man who they suspect will not give them love, freedom and independence.
5. Wear Good Shoes
Unlike men who start looking at women from the eyes to the curves, women start looking at men from the bottom up. They perceive that if you have good shoes, then you must be financially stable and know how to look after yourself.
6. Humor is Important
Most women love humor. To a woman, a man without humor is like a dry well. Most young girls still find me attractive because of my humor even though I'm now well past the age of caring.
7. Personality
Despite what people tell you that women find classy, wealthy men attractive, this is not exactly true if the other qualities are missing. Sure, they’ll be attracted to your money but not to you. On the other hand, women are attracted to a strong personality.
8. Testosterone.
Also known as the male hormone. Why do you think a woman married to a millionaire will still sneak out and sleep with the gardener? This male hormone will draw women to you like a magnet from a mile away if you have lots of it.
If you have low testosterone, make sure you eat good foods that are rich in it, and avoid foods that lower testosterone like soy products, alcohol, junk food and sugar.
Instead, eat foods that naturally increase testosterone levels like tuna fish, egg yolks, fortified cereals, beef, beans, etc.
Exercise enhances the production of testosterone.
9. Hard Body vs Slob
Women admire a man with a hard, strong body. Doesn’t necessarily mean you must have a six-pack-abs. However, pot bellies repulse women. It sends a strong signal that you’re lazy and can’t look after yourself let alone look after her sexual desires satisfactorily.
10. Appreciation.
Women like men who appreciate them for who they are. If a woman is beautiful tell her without flinching. If you happen to be the one to tell her this in a month, she’ll think you’re the most wonderful man.
Never tell a woman that she’s ugly. She may hate you forever.
11. Be a Predator
Not all women will be attracted to you no matter what. Like a predator,know which woman is good for you and learn how to attack. Don’t approach a woman directly. Start by stalking your target woman and learn her likes and dislikes, without arousing her fear. Start by talking about the weather or politics, because women already know what you want even before you ask them.
Break the ice by offering to buy her a drink, and from there, tread carefully. If she’s interested in you she’ll give you a hint and open up for more talk.
12. Don’t Talk Too Much
Don’t talk too much but when you talk, make her laugh. Give her a conversation she’ll never forget. Women love to talk, but they can’t do that when you’re still talking. They think you’re being disrespectful and not listening. Instead, let her do the talking.
She’ll feel like she’s in control and that’s exactly how you want her to feel, because many men don’t give her this opportunity.
13. Play hard to get.
Most men would think this is counterintuitive.
I know this is difficult for any man, especially if you’re drawn to a woman you really want. This is reverse psychology and you must play it carefully.
Don’t be in a rush to ask a woman out on your first encounter even if her body language gives you the green light. Be careful because women have different agendas.
14. Exude your Inner Glow
If you know how to respect and look after a woman there’s no limit to what you can do with women. Goes without saying, that women love security, appreciation and love. Whereas men look for outward appearance, women look for the inner glow.
For this reason, a woman can fall in love with a blind man who has all these qualities.
15. Take the initiative.
Women like men who take the initiative. It’s natural. Men who don’t take the initiative show lack of leadership, self-esteem, control, and self-confidence. Lack of self-esteem says many things about a man.
For one, it sends a strong signal that the man will not provide for the woman what she wants. Secondly, it sends a strong signal that the man will not give leadership, guidance and direction.
16. Understand reverse psychology.
Psychologically, women have a different perspective of life. They don’t exactly think the same way and don’t necessarily like what men like. Whereas men use the left brain, women use the right brain. This is something that eludes many men—which explains why most men fail with women. For example, whereas men may like beef burgers and sports, women may like candy and ice cream.
If you can understand women’s psychological weaknesses you’ll be far more advanced in winning women than most men.
17. Be yourself.
Being yourself is the social proof of self-confidence, and self-confidence is a reflection of success and trust, which most women find irresistible. Confidence indicates that you are successful and to be trusted.
When you believe in yourself, women will believe in you as well. Women will trust you with themselves.
18. Control your body language.
This is what I call self-regulation. Male hormones can rage out of control, especially if you’re interested in a particular woman for her looks and sex appeal. Don’t be too obvious to show it.
Controlling yourself is a sign of respect to the woman you want to attract and a signal that you’re not just a hit-and-run type of guy.
19. Be a risk taker.
Women are more intrigued and attracted to men who are not afraid of taking risks, be it work-related (like starting your own business) or extreme sports (bungee jumping or mountain climbing, for example).
Women associate risk-taking with lack of fear, courage and masculinity.
20. Show Generosity.
Remember, women are also human beings. In fact, women are more compassionate than men. Not surprising therefore, a man who shows the traits of generosity will look more attractive to women over a vain, selfish man.
21. Be A Leader
Leadership can be defined as the ability to give guidance and direction verbally or by modeling. It’s not about control.
Women want to feel like they are with a leader but not a dictator. In relationships, women can give us the level of trust that borders on livelihood.
It’s important that they hear from you on matters such as where you want the relationship to go and the goals you have for it.
Being comfortable doing these may also show that you are excited about the relationship. You are making a concerted effort that demonstrates that you want to be there.
22. Effective Communicator
Communication is simply the exchange of words, ideas, needs, and desires. The essence of this concept is straightforward and uncomplicated but putting into action is all that matters.
It’s no secret that women talk more than men. There is a concept known as gender jabber which highlights the differences in the number of words that women speak compared to men.
23. Learn to “speak her language”.
Women are not like men. Your woman will have specific desires that mean specific things. It could be nonverbal or verbal, but she has them nonetheless.
Hone in on those nuanced communication methods. When you pick up on them, she will appreciate it more and you will score more points with her.
24. Don't Be Selfish
Women are observant. If they suspect you're selfish they'll conclude that you're mean and you'll starve them. She may fall for you for other reasons but not for a permanent relationship.
25. Have Good Manners
What's worse than being out with a person who doesn't have good temperament? It’s a person who doesn't have good manners. It doesn't matter if you were raised in a majority male home or that you are in all male-dominated sports. A “please” and a “thank you” can a long way.
26. Be Family Oriented
All women don’t have the desire for marriage and a family, but the overwhelming majority do have this need. Being a guy who wants family or has children and is present with your kids increases your attractiveness exponentially.
Being a family oriented man also means that during conversations and throughout dating she will see that you would prioritize her as your wife.
Another way to show that you are a family man is to allow her to see the interaction between you and your family. Even if your family isn’t close, express to her you desire to change that story. Let her know that you want to be close to your children and don’t want to repeat the cycle that you were once in.
27. Be Sensitive
This is often difficult for guys to do. We pride ourselves on being manly…having machismo but the truth is that we have feelings just like women.
They need to see and experience that you are comfortable being open with them. Allowing her to encounter your vulnerability will increase trust.
It shows that you trust her with the deep and dark places in your life.
Don’t do this in the beginning stages of getting to know someone. Many times that can be too much too soon. You will know when the time is right. Remember, there is fearlessness in being vulnerable.
28. Stay Informed & Educated
Keeping abreast on what's happening around the globe and can talk about it is a quality that shows that you are a part of the world. You don’t have to be a political analyst or a philanthropist.
However, it is important that you show that you care enough to learn and understand other cultural perspectives. This does mean being able to shift the conversation from time to time away from work or family to something else of equal relevance.
A gentleman who is connected to the world around him proves to his lady that he understands that he’s part of something that’s bigger than him. It displays that you know that the world doesn’t revolve around you and your experience. This is a key component in being compassionate.
29. Be Adventurous
Women like a guy who isn’t afraid to try new things. Men have been categorized as creatures of habit who like a routine. If you’re able to throw a monkey wrench in that perception, your attractiveness will have shot through the roof.
The overall gist is that no one wants to be committed to falling into a rut, so being adventurous or adopting a perspective that enjoys trying new things from time to time can boast wonderfully for a man trying to catch the eye or keep the interest of a lady.
30. Know How To Fix Things
Don’t just think frugal or cheap. In fact, ladies hate cheap! Resourceful is a mixture of the ultimate networker and Action Hero. The key here is not that you're superman and necessarily know how to fix everything but more importantly, you know how to get things done.
Or that you know someone who knows someone that can get it done.
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